Once your blog starts to get a bit of traffic, you might get some nasty blog comments. If you are a crier, like me, this might devastate you. Don’t let it.
Depending on the content of your blog, you might get nasty comments right away. If you post about controversial topics, you are probably already prepared for a debate.
Debating is one thing, but negative comments just for the sake of being nasty is another. After my first mean blog comment, I seriously wanted to delete all of my blogs.
Ridiculous I know, but I can be a tad on the sensitive side an insecure, emotional wreck at times.
How to Handle Mean Comments Online
Ignore – Delete. Ignore. Move on. Brush it off and don’t give it another thought.
Rejoice – That’s right. Once you start getting hateful comments and “trolls”, it means you must be pretty popular.
Be Kind – Respond to their hate with kindness. Fight the dark with the light. Clearly they need some love in their life.
Laugh – Laugh them off. Forward them to a friend that you know will laugh with you. Other bloggers can all relate and will definitely make you feel better about it.
Take Note – If it’s your loyal readers leaving nasty blog comments, you might want to take that into consideration. If the comments are constructive criticism, they might be something to give another look.
Once I posted a rather inappropriate joke to my family friendly blog. Well, I should have realized that might offend a few people since the content was completely off base from what I normally post.
Block – If you have a persistent mean commenter you can block their IP address.
Debate – Like I said above, if your content is welcoming a debate, then debate away. If all parties can do so in a factual and level-headed way, a little healthy debate can be good for the soul!
No matter how your nasty blog comments come about just remember that most bloggers get them.
Don’t let them drag you down or stop you from being yourself.
Just remember this quote:
If everyone likes you, you must be doing something wrong.
Bette Davis
Pam says
I feel the need to leave a nasty comment now. (ha!) Seriously, as soon as I changed my blog name to Simply Southern Mom I started to receive comments about how ignorant Southerners were, how we were intolerant, how we were backwoods freaks, etc. Just made my day. (Sarcasm!)
Jennifer says
That’s complete insanity?! I am so sorry you are dealing with that. That’s totally uncalled for!!!
ellen says
Sone people like hide behind the computer and like leaving nasty comments… but if they are a subscriber, I sure hope even though it may be an opposing view, that you keep an open mind to what we take the time to visit and type out.
I have seen some blloggers post what you would call a debatable subject, and all the people who disagreed had their comments deleted. As you said, debates can be fun as long as folks stay calm, and dont resort to silliness.
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
I’ve gotten a few and most of the times I reply via email with something sickeningly sweet, but the jerk who leaves the comment usually puts in the wrong email address, so it bounces back. Cowards.
Nikki says
I would cry. I’m very sensitive (thin-skinned?) and while I can take respectful debate or constructive criticism, I can’t handle outright nastiness well. I’m grateful that so far I haven’t gotten any really mean comments, except for those weird spam ones. I can’t imagine leaving a nasty comment on someone’s blog. It’s like walking into their home and being rude. I do like your tips on how to handle it when it does happen!
Samantha Angell says
I’m fortunate where I haven’t gotten any truly nasty blog comments. I don’t think I would handle it all that well though!
Rebecca Swenor says
This is a great post for the bloggers starting out those who are dealing with nasty comments. There is a big difference in constructive criticism and people just being ignorant. I love that quote too because it is so true. Thanks for sharing.
Holly says
We all know that those are just hiding behind their computer and wouldn’t have the audacity to say it to your face. Still, it drives me crazy and is really hard to brush off sometimes. I really did have to block the ip of one commenter because she would just not leave it alone. Some people 🙂
April @ Everyday Fitness and Nutrition says
The first few ugly comments I got really hurt my feelings but I got over it. Some of them now are just funny and I’m able to laugh at them. I’m fine with debate and constructive criticism but you can be respectful about it.
Local Adventurer (Las Vegas Blog) says
i haven’t come across too much hate on the blogosphere, but people are definitely brutal on youtube.. bc it’s a younger crowd there. my husband and his brother usually handle it really well though.. and every time they throw nasty comments their way, they’ll always reply really nicely and than them for their comment and opinion and say they’re trying to work harder on fixing XYZ.. and usually the haters have nothing else left to say.
Jennifer says
YES — YouTube and Reddit — I can’t handle it. They are straight up mean!
Angelic Sinova says
I COMPLETELY agree! I posted some on my blog’s FB the other day (it wasn’t even controversial, it was about a movie coming out that I don’t want to see) and some man leave a crazy/ kind of rude comment for no reason. At first I was shocked and little sad but then I just laughed it off. There’s no need to comment hateful things, if you don’t agree or like something than stop reading it <3
Liz Mays says
I have no clue what kind of people take the time out of their days to post nastiness. I appreciate criticism since it helps improve my content but rude comments are a nuisance!
tammileetips says
I am very thankful I have not gotten any nasty blog comments! I would be the sensitive one too. Great ways to handle them!
Rashell Abril says
I sometimes get nasty comments, but I normally ignore them. Not worth my time! I agree with this, “If everyone likes you, you must be doing something wrong.”
Jennifer says
I am getting better at ignoring them, too. Thankfully, they don’t happen all that often!
XmasDolly says
I had one nasty comment the whole time I’ve been blogging believe it or not, and it was about my title of my blog. Being that it is XmasDolly she thought I hated Christ. Give me a break and then I told her the story about the X that the Christians used the X as a slanted cross because they didn’t want to get thrown to the lions being Christians. So instead of saying Christmas they said X mas ! Do you see the slanted cross? She had nothing to say after that and many others did and became very friendly. I do love all your suggestions too.
Jennifer says
WOW! First of all, I would have never looked at your blog name as negative. Second, I never knew that about the X! That’s so interesting and makes a lot of sense!
vidya Sudarsan says
I sometimes wonder why people have to be mean – everybody does not like everything we bloggers have to say. They should still learn to be either neutral or just not comment.. there is no need to be mean! I’m sorry you are having to go thru this.
Chrysa says
I have only gotten a few nasty blog comments. I just delete them and move on. I just don’t understand people taking the time to actually sit and write a mean comment. They must be pretty miserable people.
Aisha Kristine Chong says
I had even way worst experience before – it was traumatic for me since that was when I was on my early teens – but now, learning from experience. I only click delete or ignore, lol. Moderate comments is a must for me.
Lauren says
I just ignore those people that are negative! Who needs those idiots anyway! I only let positive things into my life!
Carly says
I’m definitely of the IGNORE it mindset. It’s funny how people say things online that they’d NEVER say in real life!
Debbie Jean says
I got a negative comment once and had to mostly just ignore it because it just didn’t make sense to me. I just trashed it and decided to not give it any energy – it just isnt worth it! Especially when most of the people who leave those would never have the guts to say it to your face 😉
Melissa S says
I can not imagine being able to handle that, I would have a really hard time handling the kinds of comments I see people leaving on some blog postings. I think you have given great advice here for newer bloggers just starting out.
Jennifer Heintz says
You are never going to please everyone. Block the, and move on. I don’t blog, but I appreciate that it takes time, and some posts will be better than others. Thanks you.